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28 The rhythm of healthy abilities and overflowing into extremes – some examples Extreme Healthy ability Extreme arrogance self-esteem humility submissiveness activism, over-zealousness act let it be passivity, paralysis pedantry carefulness generosity slovenliness meanness, addiction pleasure doing without denying needs over-responsibility accepting responsibility giving up responsibility avoiding taking responsibility credulity faith, trust test/discern distrust inconsiderateness getting one’s way yielding spinelessness, unresisting compliance grumbling, quarrelling saying what one finds unsatisfactory contenting oneself with something “swallowing” everything domineering, authoritarian bearing being an authority accepting authority servility, hanger-on meanness respect and manage property share and give away property neglect property, squander blabber speak remain silent fall silent self-condemnation remorse assurance of salvation self-righteousness attach oneself to people live relationships able to be alone isolate oneself despair sadness joy euphoria lose oneself in someone get involved and commit oneself differentiate oneself refusal pacify comfort and encourage correct judge and condemn anxious control caution carefree recklessness “worship” to value, agree have objections and reservations disparage, hold in contempt “With died-in-the-wool faulty attitudes, it is, as a rule, necessary to go back in the memory to where the faulty attitude began, to recollect the situation at that time and to take back decisions which were made then. … There are no healings in the fast lane even with this list. Grace and liberation must be related to that which requires the grace and liberation, and this very specifically. The list can be of help here.” (Baar, 1994, p.78) References Baar, Hanne (1994): “Das Gute kennen”. In: Befreiende Wahrheit, Nr. 2. Zeitschrift für Seelsorge und Christliche Therapie, pp. 74-78. Kitzingen: IGNIS Baar, Hanne (1996): “Wieso tut Ablehnung so weh?”. In: Befreiende Wahrheit, Nr. 9. Zeitschrift für Seelsorge und Christliche Therapie, pp. 60-67. Kitzingen: IGNIS Baar, Hanne (1998): Wie man wahnsinnig werden kann. 2nd ed., Rottendorf: Hymnus-Verlag Guardini, Romano (1925/1998): Der Gegensatz. 4th ed., Mainz, Paderborn: Grünewald/Schöningh Lang, Ulrike (2001): Wann geht helfende Beziehung zu weit? Unpublished diploma paper. Kitzingen: IGNIS- Akademie Schulz von Thun, Friedemann (1989): Miteinander reden 2. Stile, Werte und Persönlichkeitsentwicklung. Reinbek bei Hamburg: Rowohlt Helwig, Paul (1951/1968): Charakterologie. Freiburg/B.: Herder. Christian Anthropology

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